How God Arranged My Divorce

February 13th, 2019 by admin

The claim that marriage is from God is as false as everything else about religious ideology. The so-called vows one undertakes are nothing but magical words meant to somehow change the status of someone. In fact, all they do is bring two people into church or wherever for the sake of the law. Be that religious or secular law it makes little difference when the end result is pain and suffering from living together.

Following my reincarnation and with a link to the Spirit many things became apparent from a young age. There is no heaven or hell, for instance, and without evidence of same people pay a fortune for the promise of a safe ride into eternity with good things happening. The alternative is they will reside in an eternal fire, according to the myths they are brain-washed into believing.

When it was my turn to marry and have children things went wrong from the start. It was the worst experience of my life and the loneliness of the situation was impossible to bear. Once when we were on a holiday in my caravan which was bought for the purpose of taking the children away for breaks the Spirit intervened in a most remarkable way.

We were at a seaside resort in Norther New South Wales and later that night he made up the other bed to sleep in. As I wondered about it the Spirit gave me a vision of him floating away like a dead fish down the river. This was virtually a warning that the marriage was over and the power was with me.

The next morning, he took off by train leaving me alone with the kids and the caravan and no money. This was not an easy situation to be in but again provision was made and we were able to get back to Sydney leaving the caravan behind.

The divorce followed soon after and then the Spirit called me to the work I now do. That followed a commission to break down the barrier of deceit and expose the roots of religion in sun-worship. We are nearing the end of the day and the world will soon change forever. Those who remain will be the spiritual people who have been prepared to be gathered.

During the course of the 4,000 years long day we have all reincarnated at least six times (Job 5:19-21) and now is the judgment. Those who oppose the Spirit and have gone after the false gods of religion will be taken away forever. The survivors will be alive again and the real God will rid the world of all the evil. That is the promise and the plan of God.

Creating a Good Divorce

February 8th, 2019 by admin

I know it’s an oxymoron: nobody wants a divorce, so how could one be good? But when you’re faced with divorce, you have lots of opportunities to make it less bad (if not actually good, at least in the long run, in hindsight).

I’ve been a divorce lawyer for 24 years, and expert on what works best for both parties when you’re getting divorced. As a divorcee myself, I perfected a personal “what works” that helps people navigate the often rough waters of divorce.

When you’re faced with a divorce or other family law case (custody, support, domestic partnership, cohabitation), you have the maximum opportunity for success in resolving everything to the best benefits through mediation.

This might sound somewhat self-interested, since I’m a full time family law mediator… but I became a mediator after giving up a very high paying divorce lawyer job because I felt it was more important to be part of the solution, and not encourage the fighting that often characterizes divorce. I traded my fancy car for a 2002 Honda Accord, and 11 years later it’s still fulfilling helping families through this difficult life transition of divorce.

You can work through a lot of the issues you’ll face with our free tools:

Here’s how it works:

In mediation, you and your spouse or partner work with a neutral, unbiased professional or team of mediators. This is more often a lawyer, a therapist trained in mediation, or someone with both legal and counseling expertise. The job of the mediator in your family law case is to help you settle your differences, from cars and furniture to parenting plans for children, financial support and sharing of retirement accounts.

When considering a family law or divorce mediator, look around. Mediator styles vary.Ask your prospective mediator if a free orientation or initial consultation is available. Take time to decide what type of mediator might work best for your personal circumstances. This is an intensely personal process, so you should seek a personal connection with your chosen mediator.

A mediator’s style might include:
* Making suggestions

* Informing you about legal provisions

* Relating what others have done in your situation

* Defining your options

* Helping you consider alternative ways to resolve your problem

* Facilitating communication

* Ensuring the divorce discussion is balanced, productive, and respectful

* Writing down agreements in a cogent, easy-to-follow way

* Guiding you through court paperwork (or doing it for you)

* Mentoring your staying on task and finishing discussions, because when discussions grow difficult, it’s tempting to just change the subject.

Not all mediators do all these things, so use this list as your own list of questions when considering a mediator in a divorce proceeding

Types of Divorce and What to Know

January 31st, 2019 by admin

When a couple decides to end their marriage there are several types of divorce that they can choose from.

No fault divorce

With this type of divorce the grounds for ending the marriage is irreconcilable differences. This means that either the wife or husband can end the marriage without stating a reason except irreconcilable differences. This cause for a divorce can mean anything from simply deciding that they no longer want to be married to one of them cheating. It is virtually impossible to stop the divorce when using this type since either one may initiate the proceedings to get a divorce. In states that have community property the bad actions of the wife or husband will not affect the fifty-fifty distribution of the property. The no fault divorce also cuts back on the time that will be needed to appear in court because the judge will not have to look at the behavior of the wife or husband to decide whether or not to grant the divorce. If there are children the judge may need to hear arguments to decide custody, visitation, and child support.

Uncontested divorce

This type of divorce is granted without the wife or husband having to go to trial. It implies that the spouses have no disagreements or disputes about ending the marriage, that both have been able to work out any differences and have negotiated a settlement without having to appear before the judge. It can also be considered an uncontested divorce if one files the papers and the other one fails to file a formal response. This type of divorce is generally cheaper and quicker than other types of divorces, especially ones that are contested.

Contested divorce

With this type of divorce there are major disagreements between the wife and husband that cannot be resolved outside of mediation and possibly court. If they have to go to court the judge will be the one that will decide what is fair. This type of divorce can be expensive and involve lengthy appearances in court. It can also take a long while for the divorce to be granted.

Divisible divorce

In this type of divorce the marriage will be terminated but other issues that are generally settled during the divorce will remain unsettled. Generally child support, alimony, division of property and debts, visitation, and custody are decided before the divorce is granted but in a divisible divorce these issues may be decided after the marriage has been terminated. Many couples choose this type of divorce if one party wants to remarry without waiting weeks, or even months for the divorce to be finalized.

If you want to terminate your marriage talk to a divorce lawyer to find the one best suited for your situation.

The Most Devastating Mistake Divorcing People Make

January 22nd, 2019 by admin

Speak with anyone on the verge of divorce and you’ll hear them discussing lawyers, mediators and division of property. All of these are aspects of your divorce but just as important is the emotional divorce – from your ex, your stuff and life as you have known it. It’s time for a new life.

The emotional divorce enables you to move through the feelings of grief and loss so that can get on with your new life. it includes regaining your balance, learning to let go and release, coming into awareness around the truth of your situation, mentally preparing and finding people to walk with you as you go through your divorce. Then there is emergence on the other side and going through a debriefing of everything before you do the fine tuning.

Psychologists have determined that divorce may actually be even more painful to endure than the death of someone close to you. Death allows for closure. Divorce is like an open wound. So the grief work is very important.

We all know people who have held on to their pain for decades, allowing it to poison everything in their life. They did all the paperwork, but never completed their emotional divorce.

The first step is to regain your balance, to find a way to get grounded and feel a sense of calm and control. One of the easiest tools is breathwork. Our minds are deeply impacted by how we are breathing and if we are bracing for impact, we’re likely to be breathing shallowly. That can put us in survival mode. So a few deep breaths can calm our thoughts.

Coming into awareness is challenging. I like Byron Katie’s 4 questions in her book Loving What Is. During divorce, we get so caught up in the stories we’re telling ourselves and the world and they can be very disempowering. If we’re able to eliminate all of our assumptions and expectations, we are more able to see the truth and that’s far easier to deal with.

Releasing is important in grief work. This involves not only expressing gratitude and saying goodbye to our mates, but feeling appreciation and releasing everything, recognizing where we have some hitches and stuckness so we can deal with that through meditation, coaching or therapy. Don’t judge yourself, but allow yourself to observe what you’re attached to.

You will need, not only legal help, but support from your community. Friends, mentors, a coach, therapist, your insurance needs to be adjusted, the list goes on but it’s customized to your specific needs.

As you go through your divorce, it’s like a marathon so having people to help is key. A debriefing allows you to truthfully examine your relationship and your old life so you can determine what worked and what didn’t, what you’d like to change and what needs to be replaced.

As you emerge on the other side, it can be a bit jarring. Everything is so different. It may take a moment for your soul to adjust so give it time. This is a good time to lay the groundwork for new habits.

And in the end, there is fine tuning to ensure the grief has been fully released, the feelings fully experienced and you can live a life that is fulfilling, fun and good. Just surviving is not enough.

There are coaches who can help you as well as therapists if you’re feeling dysfunctional or completely overwhelmed. There are also resources and other people who have been down this road.

The tendency can be to isolate during divorce, to curl into yourself and protect yourself. When you’re able, reach out. You’re likely to find a tremendous community of people willing to help, safety nets and rich resources.